(Picture Taken from txd)This is an atoning for my best blogger mate, Oma Gratcia from GratciaNulis who has made my day colorful by given me a Tag about Time to Nostalgia. Actually the tag was given by her on June ‘08. Dude! It was 2 Months ago.. @#%^ *lol*
Okay, let’s back to the topic -Time to Nostalgia. Overall, I am highly nostalgic when it comes to a school teacher, Mr. Yana, from my childhood when I was about 10th years old in elementary school at SDN Depok Baru 03. It wasn’t a good one, mine were horrible and mostly because of my teacher who got me through execrable days. I think he spent much time to insult me as a spoilt child or whatever in front of the class. I saw his face very “smugness in hell” after he said something terrible about me. It really suc**! Sadly, don’t know why! I’m just a kid, at that time. I wasn’t a mischievous kid anyways. *sigh*
Did he know Child Psychology? Hmm..Probably not! Yes, he was too intelligent enough to understand child psychology (heh? wasn’t he?).
You know, children are innocent and when they do mistakes in their innocency, adult people (parents or maybe teachers) will insult or even spank them by thinking they won’t do the same mistakes again. This has developed depression or grief for kids -maybe worse- a typical trauma, which when originating in childhood. Of course it is difficult to erase trauma from one’s mind completely even after the reality of this life becomes clear. There is yet one more reason. Some semblance of privacy as the child begins to become conscious of the need for it. Just allow the growing child “his/her” moments of privacy. Teaching the child the enjoyment of his/her certain convenient moments of privacy is one of those factors which determine the extent to which the child develops independent personality. The need for their moments of common privacy should be respected.
(Picture Taken from feminaerecta)Discipline to a child should not mean punishment. It is about teaching him right from wrong. Emphasizing the positives gives a child something to look forward too and be respectful. For younger children several positive approaches seem to work best. First is the ‘do as I do’ routine. Children love to imitate adults and by modeling good behavior, you are showing them how to do it. If you expect good manners from your child, show him that they are important by using them yourself. Speak in a normal, respectful tone and look them in the eye. This tends to make the child listen to what you are saying instead of how you are saying it. Tell him what you expect or want instead of what not to do.
Children are human beings and deserve to be respected as a person. It is up to the adult people to find positive ways of helping children grow up to be respectful and responsible adults. Insulting or spanking teaches children that they can get their way using violence, and most parents really do not want that lesson learned. For all teachers or parents who are still using this methods to children, d’oh! “get real” and “get into your head”, this will lead to worse children’s behavior.. Pay attention please! 
Ho boy! Not a good childhood nostalgic at all.
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